The long road to recovery after sexual abuse

David Husted first encountered Father James Spielman in the principal’s office of Archbishop Walsh High School in Olean, New York in 1979.

The skinny freshman was in trouble when the young, charismatic priest with the dark mustache walked in.

“He came in the room and he said, ‘Hi, what’s your name? What’s going on?’” Husted recalled. “I told him and he started to befriend me. He asked me to come talk to him after school, and you know, I did. He was a priest, he’s a teacher. I thought he was [there] to help me.”

But Father James Spielman wasn’t there to help Husted. He was there to groom him for years of sexual abuse — and Husted says, a lifetime of pain.

“He was thought of as a God,” Husted said.  “He was thought of as do no wrong, such a wonderful person. He was so good at what he did, in grooming.”

The grooming of Husted, now in his 50s and living in Texas, started in his Olean home, where the charismatic priest was a regular dinner guest. It continued, Husted said, at a cabin in Scio he nicknamed “The Hill,” and also on a mission trip to Hawaii — a trip that would prove fateful to all involved. 

The priest fondled Husted while swimming in the ocean and encouraged the boys to join him in a “masturbation contest” back at the a hotel room after he plied them with alcohol, Husted said. After the boys passed out, Husted said Spielman woke him from his sleep and beckoned him to his room. 

“He took me right into the bathroom and forced me to give him oral copulation,” Husted said. 

Those abuses — and a lawsuit filed by Husted — are what led the Diocese of Buffalo in 2016 to pay Husted a $1.5 million settlement. 

The diocese was on the hook for the payments because Spielman took Husted and other students on a trip to Hawaii in the 1980s, where Husted said he was abused. Hawaii — unlike New York — re-opened its statute of limitations on child sex crimes a few years ago, which allowed Husted to sue. A diocesan spokesman said "the bulk" of the payments came from the diocese's third-party insurance carrier, but he would not give a breakdown of the figures. 

“It was not about the money, it never was,” Husted said. “It was about them, the diocese, finally taking responsibility. I was asked, ‘What would you rather have, this priest to rot in jail for the rest of his life or a million dollars?’ I said, ‘I want this priest to rot in jail for the rest of his life.’ That won’t ever happen, but I told myself I would never give up trying to get justice.”

Husted’s fight for justice is often interrupted by flashbacks of the past.

Like the time his mother, when he was in college, took him to dinner at the Glen Iris Inn in Letchworth State Park. Husted became physically ill because while driving on the rural roads of Allegany County, his mind wandered to the time he said Spielman sodomized him after dinner there on his 16th birthday. 

“That was another time that he had in his mind that, you know, ‘Let’s celebrate your birthday, but I’m also gonna rape you when we’re done,’” Husted said. 

He came close to telling his mother after that flashback because she could tell something was wrong. But each time, he buried the memory, not telling his Mom or Dad until decades had passed. 

“The denial that happens, and the shame that takes you over is so incredibly powerful,” he said. “Today, I still don't know what's stronger and what's more powerful. The denial or the shame.”

The abuse even happened at Walsh High School, Husted said. During a record hop, Spielman encouraged him to get a bottle of vodka he has stashed in the bathroom. The priest then took him into a dark hallway and fondled him, he said. 

Another time, a nun caught Spielman in the act when she walked into his classroom after school, Husted said. 

“She dropped her head, turned around and walked out the door,” Husted said. “That was it. There was no words, no comments ever.”

Diocesan records show Spielman was shuffled around to at least six different parishes or schools: